Friday, May 16, 2008

Brady Day!











Last Mother's Day I awoke to realize that we had overslept and were very close to missing our flight out of the Tri-cities on our way to China. We threw everything together and got to the airport only to learn our flight had been delayed. Big sigh of relief...or so we thought. Our flight kept getting delayed later and later until they cancelled the flight altogether. The woman at the ticket counter told Jeff that we could catch a flight out in two days. Jeff told her that she was lucky that his wife wasn't standing there when she said that! He told her that two days just didn't work for us. We were going to China to meet our new son and we needed to flight out that day. She found us a different flight and we were fortunate to get to LA in time to make our China Southern flight to Guangzhou. Even so, my stress level was through the roof. I know I should have just turned it all over to God, but I am stubborn sometimes. When we got to GZ, we were waiting and waiting and WAITING for our luggage. We had one suitcase but the other never came. We had to stand in this insanely long line to report it. While we were in that line, our guide left the airport thinking we had not arrived. So here we were at the GZ airport with no guide, no Chinese money and no way to communicate. Thank GOD another American passenger who also had lost luggage struck up a conversation with us. He happened to speak Chinese. He found us a cab and told the driver where we needed to go AND negotiated the fair price. Otherwise, I have no idea what would have happened. We had the whole day alone and were scheduled to get Brady the next day.

On the afternoon of the 16th, we headed to the Civil Affairs office to finally meet Brady. There was one other family also meeting their son for the first time. The boys hadn't arrived so we waited. Finally the nannies came in and scurried into the next room. I snapped a few shots but couldn't tell which was Brady. When they were ready to unite the families, they brought out the other boy first while Brady peeked into the room. His eyes were so big and his eyelashes just as long as they seemed in pictures. They brought him out and the next part is blurry to me. I remember talking to him, not wanting to push myself onto him but they wanted me to scoop him up quickly so I did. He didn't protest and didn't have much emotion at all. All the info that we got about Brady before the adoption talked about how QUIET he was. We sat him on the couch and pulled out the snacks and toys that we had brought. He quietly looked at what we had brought and I thought to myself that we were adopting the most sullen and timid child I had ever seen (please take a moment to chuckle over that one). I honestly thought this child might never smile. A few minutes later, he was belly laughing at Jeff. He took his hand and led him out of the CA office. I thought it couldn't be more perfect (again, go ahead and laugh). Then the bottom fell out. I won't lie. The next two weeks were the worst of my life. Brady screamed, hit, pushed, beat his head on the floor...I really can't even go back there yet. It just wasn't pretty. Thanks to many, many prayers we made it home (and with only one person asking us what the heck was wrong with him on the flight). We considered that a true miracle. The first weeks home were rough; last summer is a fog. I honestly could barely function. I asked myself many times what had we done. People always asked how we did it with five and it was always so easy. Then we had six and I DIDN'T know how to do it. I was overwhelmed. And during it all Brady was pushing me away. The minute Jeff got home from work, Brady would go crazy if I came near him. It was all so hard for everyone. All 8 of us. But through it all, I remembered one thing...God planned Brady for our family. He was ours and we were his. And then one day things just started getting easier and we fell into a groove and Brady's tantrums became less and less and he started feeling more comfortable with us. He started coming to me for comfort and wanting me to love on him. He became a happy, loving little boy. He has even just recently started asking for mama to do things for him, which is so awesome. This morning when he got up, he wanted me to carry him and didn't want me to put him down. It's so nice just to have him in my arms and not be fighting to get away. I know we still have a long way to go with Brady. Poor little fella has so many things to overcome. But today, on the one year anniversary of meeting Brady Daniel LeQiang Loos, I can say without hesitation that I am so glad he is my son.

14 comments:

Julie said...

Your words have brought me to tears. I needed to hear your story more than you know. What am amazing year this has been - it has seemed to fly by. God did ordain these sweet children to be a part of our family before the beginning of time and I try to keep that in the forefront of my mind when I think I cannot do it again one more day. What special boys they are (girls too) and what a life they have had up until this point. I am in awe of their strength and courage. Yours too!

mommy24treasures said...

Happy Braady day Lisa and family. I don't know how it can already be here. It seems this year has flown in many ways.
We love you.
Connie

Mom To Six said...

Oh Lisa, our journeys have been so parallel. Brady is absolutely adorable. Your faith pulled you through those dark times and you were rewarded with an amazing and loving little man who is so blessed to have you as his Mama!

Happy Brady Day to the entire family!!!

Hugs,

Ohilda

The Byrd Family said...

Wow, I could have written this post about Emma Jane. Somehow after this one year mark with Emma, she really started to relax with everyone.....this is also what I pray for little Brady. I pray for you guys every day. Happy Brady day! You are blessed.

Sturgills said...

Lisa,
You don't know how much your journey with Brady has been a comfort to me. Karen is Brady's soul mate. She is so like him. When we were in China with her she couldn't stand the sight of me. When we came home with her I truly believed she hated me. I would cry myself to sleep nightly and felt I was a horrible mama because she made it so difficult to give her love. We saw a child therapist for a long time. She has changed little by little and now loves her mama, but it was the most difficult beginning-relationship I have ever had in my life. It is now one of the most rewarding. I love her as you do Brady. It just keeps getting better given time.

Heidi said...

I love your blog! Thanks for sharing. Your family is beautiful. I am waiting to travel for my son hopefully in July or so. I love the music on here as well.

Lisa C. said...

Lisa,

Thank you so much for sharing. I feel like I have been in hiding from the group and the outside world since Cade came home. We have not hit that groove yet but I have seen progress. Your post has given me hope and I too know that God designed Cade to be a part of our family just has He did Brady for yours.

Happy Brady day!!!!

Blessings, Lisa C.

Kelly said...

Happy Brady Day! Has it really been a year??? My has time flown by.

Karen said...

Congratulations and Happy Brady Day! Great photos! What a cutie!

2China4Ayla said...

Lisa - It is still to fresh for me to even look at the pictures through last summer and fall. So I can relate so much. Thank you for always being so honest about your struggles - so many benefit from this. I am so glad you and Brady have found each other and are Mother and Son! Happy Brady day!

Susan said...

Lisa, I've watched you grow from 3 to 6 and what an amazing Mom you are. Has it really been a year!? Doesn't it seem like yesterday you went around Guangzhou without your 'all day lipstick'?? LOL!
Anyway, Congrats on EACH blessing!
As if you didn't have enough to do... I've tagged you :)
here you go:
www.atouchofeast.blogspot.com and 'write-on'

Denna said...

Great Post. Happy Brady day!!

Nicole said...

Lisa, Hi! Not sure if you will remember me. My name is Nicole and we met while we were both waiting for our sons last year. We were waiting for our Luke. We traveled at the same time- end of May 2007. I so appreciate your words in this post! So glad to know that WE weren't the only ones who had an extremely rough time!!! This whole last year has been rough! I too can't yet look at pics from our trip! Can't go there yet. Things have gotten better and we are in the process of adopting another cleft baby from China! Glad to follow your blog! :-) -Nicole Baker
www.bakerssweets.blogspot.com

Momtofour said...

Yep, one year ago today I was stepping on a plane to head to Guangzhou for our Olivia Mei... sometimes I can't believe it's been a year and sometimes I can't believe it's ONLY been a year! Seems she's always been here.... have a happy, happy Brady day! He sure is a treasure.

Angela